sparkignitefire

Cancer free.
Its a 6 month, 2 year, 10 year
….clean marker, or when you’ve done everything you can and it’s time to let go.

We hear it often—-‘live each day as if it were your last’ or ‘tell them you love them, you may never see them again’. So often it is lip service. There has to be a trauma, someone dying or experiencing great loss for there to be change. It’s how we work. There are so many things to help one check-out– food, alcohol, drugs……all excuses.
Why can’t we be in the moment?

It’s hard.

It takes energy and patience.

It means no excuses.
(An excuse is a statement of priority)

It means looking at yourself.
What am I giving, how am I living and what needs to change.

My husband hates when I use the analogy of when a plane is going down, the oxygen masks drop and you put one in yourself, then your child. Dramatic yes…..though clear and to the point that if we are not here….right now, you both die.

The challenging thing for me….always has been, is that not everyone…..in my world, not even 10% of the people want to look at themselves. I must accept them for where they are….right now.
What I am learning is that I have the power to change what I think and believe. Accepting that 90% is not about throwing your hands up. It is about protecting yourself.
If someone has the blinders on attitude and you have let it spill over into your world. Be in the moment and create a boundary…a fence. Fences make good neighbors. Then their dog is stopped from shitting in your yard. You took care of yourself. If they don’t like it, that’s on them. Know there will be push back. Somehow you building a fence has now affected their civil liberties. Stand fast.
Acceptance has a few steps and one of those being taking care of your heart. It might upset the applecart……remember it is to live in this moment.

Living each day as if it is your last takes a lot of work.
I started with noticing.
What is working in your life, what worked previously.
Connect the dots.

Let’s circle back.